Ive been brainstorming a bit this weekend, and I was [as per usual] discussing some ideas with Hannah, of So Obsessed With. We decided that we wanted to share the BEST things we’ve learned in 2016 with you! And then it ONLY seemed right to choose six. So we bring you, Six In 16, The Best Things I’ve Learned This Year. This year was one of the most important of my life, and most memorable as well. And the kicker: it isn’t even over yet! So maybe in December you’ll see a top 12, but for now, I bring you the top six things I’ve learned in twenty sixteen!
There is no disputing this fact! We are our own worst critics. This year, quite a few times I felt insecure about my progress with my fitness journey, as well as with planning details of my own wedding, and juggling everything. I felt like I was doing a terrible job at numerous tasks, on many different occasions. But when I went to my mom, or my friends, or my husband, they were in shock with everything I WAS doing, and the progress I have made. We view ourselves differently, we judge ourselves harshly, when there truly is no need. On the heels of reading Emily Ley’s soon to be released book; Grace Not Perfection, I am truly working on this I am doing everything I can. And when I over commit, I don’t feel better, I feel dragged down and exhausted. I’m helping no one when I’m not at my best. And due to that, I am going to accept that what I am doing IS enough. And when there’s something else I need to add to my tending list, I know I will juggle it fine. I want to be great at everything I tackle, but ladies, that’s just not a reality. I will do all I can to excel in the areas that are of utter importance to me, and I think THAT, is a goal I can absolutely achieve, AND pat myself on the back for it!This year was so… moving for me in many ways. I got to really, really, see and appreciate those around myself [and Jon] that love and care for us in a new light. When you are going through a major life event [wedding, baby, etc] you really get to see people’s true colors. I was so shocked by the love that people showed us! My friends and family have sent so much love and positivity our way, and it has made me appreciate them so much more! It was absolutely overwhelming. Not only that, but the love Jon and I have for each other has grown immensely, and I didn’t even know that was possible! We have been dealing with some major life stuff lately and the support we have for each other gives me so much joy. But this year I have learned that all love, changes, grows, envelops you, and in this case, it is very much for the best. So yay for 2016 for showing me what love can do to a person! It can fill you up, and complete you, over and over.Ah, forgiveness. In life, and in all types of relationships, forgiveness is so important. Does that mean be a pushover and let people take advantage of you? No absolutely not. But does it mean, live and let live? Yes. Some things, we just have to let go. Forgive the other person, move on, stride forward. I’ve made the choice to let things go, and focus on what I can control instead of what I can’t. But I have learned that without forgiveness, we will only resent people, and become unhappy and bitter. And friends, that is not what I want to do in this life! Life is simply too short for the BS. And let me tell you, I’m so much happier by doing this!YUP! This one is so true. I don’t know if I have ever felt better than I have this year. When I eat foods I know are good for me, and get a great workout in [and all before work, ash!] I feel on top of the world! I can not see myself falling off the healthy living train anytime soon, because it fuels me in the best way. I view healthy habits as taking care of yourself. And we all deserve just that! We work hard! We need to take care of ourselves so we can in return take care of the people we need to with out best foot forward! PLUS! I get to find/create new healthy recipes on the daily! And we all know that’s up my alley! 2016 was the busiest year of my life that I can remember. Due to that, lots of blogging did NOT happen. And while this made me sad because some days it IS what I wanted to do, I had to reconcile my priorities in my head. Now that my wedding has passed, [sad!] I have more time again, but life really got super, super hectic this year, and it took away not only time from blogging, but from reading as well. I also haven’t picked up my DSLR camera in over a year. But, that is OKAY. It all comes back when life calms down, and I can resume what I love. Whether that be blogging, photography, calligraphy, etc.. It is OKAY to not be able to do EVERYTHING! And it is also okay to feel blogger burnout. I know I did this year. I would sit down and FINALLY type a post only to be like, yeah no. I can’t. It is what it is, and again, life takes us crazy places, but we will land back at the things we find time for, always.
I have found in the past [four] years that distance does not make or break anything. Several of my best friends lived three states away from me for three and a half years. And yet, they were all standing beside me on my wedding day as I married Jon. In addition, a few of my best friends that I met through blogging live quite far from me, but I do not think that the distance weakens our relationship, in fact, quite the opposite! The effort to speak is even more prominent, because we KNOW its not like we’ll be hanging at Panera anytime soon. I love that I know this because it makes me a better person. It makes me better knowing that I have friendships that are strong enough to overpower distance. Distance is the downfall of many relationships, but it doesn’t have to be. I learned to nurture that fact this year, and it has been really eye-opening.